Just recently I read a blog post written by a truly fabulous marriage celebrant, Josh Withers – he has been my inspiration since becoming a celebrant myself…. but enough of the rockstar celebrant groupiness! Josh wrote a blog called Why Gay Brides and Grooms are the Luckiest and it’s all about how straight weddings seem to be bound by 100s of years of tradition, whereas ‘gay’ weddings can be a blank canvas of new ideas and creativity. Whilst some wedding traditions may still be held dear to some couples, the origins behind them will only seem less relevant than they are already when we introduce marriage equality and you can marry who ever you love.
I have a strong feeling that this monumental shift in becoming an equal society – marriage-wise won’t be far away, so those people who have been waiting for their chance to make their love legal in Australia, you’d better get your creative thinking hats on so you can celebrate in your own true style.
This is where you and your partner get to choose your own adventure……
Choose your own attire – You could pick your favourite outfits; choose matching outfits; make them white if you want to – but do it because you WANT to, not because you feel you HAVE to; or dress up as your favourite GOT character….. you can do what ever you want!
Choose your own venue – A friend of mine recently got married in an old, art deco cinema, which is not only cool because you have a big screen to play a pictorial montage of you and your partner being all lovely, the seats are extremely comfy! Or what about a boat? You could hire a boat and a skipper for the day and cruise up and down the river whilst you declare your love, rainbow flags flying high.
Choose your own way to set up your ceremony – if you WANT to walk down an aisle, then go for it, but you could set it up so your guests are surrounding you in a circle – a circle of love; or maybe you’re into magic and you and your partner want to appear out of a puff of smoke as if you’ve appeared from nowhere – cue spooky music and magic hands…. nothing (as long as it’s legal) is out of bounds.
I understand that you may not want to jump the gun with the powers that be taking their sweet time on what is an obvious decision, but there’s no harm in being red red ready when the hammer finally falls.
And if your adventure is your dad walking you down the aisle in a white dress, your family on the left, your partner’s on the right and saying “I do!”…. then, who am I to judge?
Choose your own adventure.