Do We Need a Wedding Rehearsal?

wedding rehearsal

Do we really need a Wedding Rehearsal?

This is a question that is asked by nearly every couple.

The answer is pretty easy…… you don’t NEED a wedding rehearsal, but here are few reasons you might WANT a wedding rehearsal.

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Having a run through at the location of your ceremony eases the nerves.

If you have young children in your bridal party – a wedding rehearsal gives them a sense of direction and the confidence they need on the day.

There’s no worrying about whether the song you’ve chosen to walk down the aisle is long enough – because you’ve tested it.

If you time your wedding rehearsal correctly, you can anticipate where the sun will be on the day.

You’ll know when it’s going to be your turn to speak.

You can fix any little issues that arise.

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This is the time think about logistics:

Who will be in charge of putting the chairs out?

Who will give the signal that we’re ready to make our entrance?

Which of my bridesmaids should walk first?

When you reach the front of the aisle, who will I give my flowers to?

What does my dad do after he walks me down the aisle?

Who will be responsible for the flower girl?

And the list goes on………


On the other hand, if you’re the type of couple who likes to fly by the seat of your pants, then don’t worry about it.

Let’s just play it by ear, go with the flow and surprise ourselves.

Destination Wedding

Destination Weddings

They are all the rage at the moment – and why not?

Destination Wedding

Fiji  |   Phuket  |  Maldives  |  Bali

You may fancy a neutral location for your destination wedding that is equal distance for all your guests?

A beautiful, tropical beach location – a place that could double as your honeymoon, surrounded by all your family and friends………

It sounds idyllic!

But have you thought about the finer details?

Don’t get me wrong – I’m all for having your wedding wherever you want to have it, but first ask yourselves these questions:

 Do we want to spend our honeymoon surrounded by family and friends?

It may sound like a great idea at the time and for some groups – it will be ideal, but think about how you’ve always want to spend your honeymoon and then consider if this is for you.

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 Will our family and friends be able to afford the overseas place we choose?

This can be an awkward and tricky conversation to have.  You don’t want to compromise on the day you want simply because one person can’t afford it.  So you need to weigh up what’s more important to you.

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 How difficult will it be to find somebody to legally marry us in our country of choice?

Planning a destination wedding from a different town/city is difficult enough let alone a different country, and perhaps one where English is a second language.  Sure there are companies and organisations and hotels who will help you, but you won’t be able to meet the person who will marry you until the last minute – then, if they’re not right, is it s a bit late to change your mind?

 Will our marriage be legal once we return to Australia?

Here are some links on getting married overseas that might be helpful:

Smart Traveller

Attorney General’s Office

Births, Deaths & Marriage – Western Australia

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Can we register our marriage in Australia if we’re legally married somewhere else?

The answer to this question, by the way, is no (see the links above)

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So many questions!

Here is my handy hint…..

What if I was to tell you that there was a very easy way for you to have your destination wedding cake and eat it too?

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Step 1: Legally marry in an intimate/elopement ceremony in Australia before you go (you could even invite those who can’t make the overseas destination as your witnesses)

Remember:  You need to complete your Notice of Intended Marriage and lodge it with your celebrant a full month before your ceremony can take place

Step 2: Invite those friends and family who would like to/are able to travel to the destination wedding ceremony

Photo Credit - Jonathan Ivy
Photo Credit – Jonathan Ivy

Step 3: Once you’ve spent a bit of time with your guests – [you have, after all, invited them them to travel with you] book a secluded location for just the two of you

This way your marriage is registered in Australia and there is no red foreign tape to get through; you haven’t offended any of your guests and there are no worries.

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Your destination ceremony, which would be called “A celebration of your marriage” (as you can’t marry twice) can be performed by somebody from the destination country – just make sure they realise that you are already married in Australia and that you don’t sign any extra legal marriage documents

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To make it even more simpler, you could take your Australian celebrant along with you

Ask me if I’m available… my passport is always at the ready and my bag is already packed! T&C’s apply)

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Check out the many testimonials from the lovely couples who have used my services and see if I’m the right fit for you.

Harmony Day – Celebrating Cultural Diversity

This week, in each state of Australia, we are celebrating Cultural Diversity with Harmony Day on the 21st March

 Harmony Week brings people together from all walks of life to promote community harmony and to celebrate the many cultures that make our country so vibrant. 

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There are some fascinating statistics about Australia’s diversity. 

Did you know:

*around 45 per cent of Australians were born overseas or have at least one parent who was
*85 per cent of Australians agree multiculturalism has been good for Australia 
*apart from English the most common languages spoken in Australia are Mandarin, Italian, Arabic, Cantonese, Greek, 
Vietnamese, Tagalog/Filipino, Spanish and Hindi
*more than 60 Indigenous languages are spoken in Australia
*92 per cent of Australians feel a great sense of belonging to our country
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The Origin of Harmony Week 

(information taken from http://www.omi.wa.gov.au/omi_harmony_week.cfm)

“This week coincides with the United Nations International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination observed annually on 21 March. On that day, in 1960, police opened fire and killed 69 people at a peaceful demonstration in Sharpeville, South Africa, against the apartheid ‘pass laws’. Proclaiming the Day in 1966, the UN General Assembly called on the international community to redouble its efforts to eliminate all forms of racial discrimination.”

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So, if you want to know how you can get involved in your state – click here for all the info 

You can jump on Facebook

You can check out Twitter

You can post a selfie on Instagram

Get involved and share and let people know that everyone is welcome

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Think about it for a minute…..

If we weren’t such a multicultural country we wouldn’t go for Yum Cha on the a Sunday; we wouldn’t be eating pasta or sipping cappuccinos; we wouldn’t be playing boules or bocce on the beach; there would be no butter chicken or naan bread;  we wouldn’t know about tai chi; there would be no chocolate; we probably wouldn’t wear sarongs and there would be no sushi!

What? No yum cha?

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This is not a world I want to live in!

I love to travel and try foods and experiences within a different culture from my own.  I love learning about what makes us different and in turn what makes us the same.  It’s interesting, it’s exhilarating and it makes me feel like I’m part of their world.  I also love that I can come home and live in a country where people from many cultures have been able to find a place to live in my world.

However, it’s not all about the food……

People from different cultures bring a different way of life, a different view of the world, a different perspective about life and death and rearing children and the importance of animals and and understanding of things we know nothing about, and they are all things that we can share and learn from each other.

Now, hand over the dumplings and nobody gets hurt!

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Wedding Anniversary Symbols

I belong to a fabulous celebrant association called: Civil Celebrants Network CCN and recently I wrote a blog post for our association blog all about where wedding anniversary symbols originated.  I found it so interesting that I wanted to share it here with you as well.

Enjoy………

Have you ever wondered about what wedding anniversary symbols are all about?

No one knows precisely when wedding anniversaries were first celebrated, but the tradition is believed to go back at least to the Middle Ages.  At that time in the Germanic regions of Europe, a husband crowed his wife with a silver wreath on the 25th anniversary of their wedding day.  If the couple was fortunate to live long enough, the husband presented his wife with a gold wreath on their 50th wedding anniversary.

Over the years more symbols have been added and it is generally believed that increasingly durable gifts were chosen for successive years to represent the progressive strengthening of the marriage relationship.  As the years go by, the gifts increase in strength and worth from paper to diamond.

1st Wedding Anniversary

Paper

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The first year of marriage is like a clean sheet of paper, a new beginning upon which to write your story through the years together.  Also like paper, it is fragile and can easily rip, not having yet been tried by the fires of adversity and the storms of life.

2nd Wedding Anniversary

Cotton

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Like the interwoven fibres of cotton, the second year of marriage brings a couple closer together as their lives become increasingly intertwined.  As cotton is at the same time both strong and soft, the couple is learning how to be flexible and adapt to each other’s needs.

3rd Wedding Anniversary

Leather

Wedding Anniversary Symbols Leather

Leather has traditionally symbolised protection and covering; our ancestors covered and protected themselves from the elements with the leather hides of animals.  The bonds of marriage offer security and shelter as each partner takes care of the other.  Now in its third year, the growing relationship is becoming a source of stability for the married couple.

4th Wedding Anniversary

Fruit & Flowers

Wedding Anniversary Symbols fruit & Flowers

During the fourth year of marriage, the budding relationship is beginning to blossom like a flower and ripen like fruit.  Just as fruit nourishes the body and flowers the soul, so the deepening commitment and nurturing love of the couple brings refreshment and renewal to the marriage.

5th Wedding Anniversary

Wood

Wedding Anniversary Symbols woodPhoto: Aleksandr Volkov – Fine Art America

In ancient times, trees symbolised strength and wisdom.  By the fifth year of marriage, the married couple is developing strong, deep roots like a venerable oak tree and is gaining insight and understanding from the mistakes and stumblings of the first five years.  The pair has learned the most important lesson of all and the secret to a successful marriage – forgiveness.

6th Wedding Anniversary

Sweets

Wedding Anniversary Symbols sweets

As candy is to the taste, so romance is to marriage: sugary sweet.  Celebrating the sixth year of marriage offers a time to rekindle the flames of love and passion that brought the two of you together.

7th Wedding Anniversary

Copper & Wool

Wedding Anniversary Symbols copper & wool

Both copper and wool are known for producing heat.  Therefore they represent warmth, comfort, safety and security – necessary ingredients for a healthy and stable marriage.

8th Wedding Anniversary

Bronze

Wedding Anniversary Symbols bronze

The gifts for wedding anniversaries tend to increase in substance and value over time as marriage itself should grow and strengthen over time.  Bronze is stronger than both iron and copper, symbols of earlier years of marriage, because it is a blend of two metals (copper and tin).  This mixture represents the union of two lives and the strength resulting from combining time with perseverance.

9th Wedding Anniversary

Pottery & Willow

Wedding Anniversary Symbols pottery & willow

A potter moulds a lump of clay, shaping it on the potter’s wheel, and then fires it in the over, creating something both rich and beautiful.  So too, the marriage of two people is moulded and shaped by choices and experiences, fired in the oven of adversity, and over time, something beautiful emerges.

10th Wedding Anniversary

Tin

Wedding Anniversary Symbols tin

Tin symbolises preservation and longevity.  At one time, food was stored in tin-plated iron cans, the tin protected the iron from rust and corrosion, preserving the food inside, potentially forever.  A couple at the milestone anniversary of ten years has the ability to go the distance.  Therefore, the tenth anniversary should be celebrated with special honour.

11th Wedding Anniversary

Steel

Wedding Anniversary Symbols steel

Steel is one of the strongest, most durable metals in the world, and therefore a fitting symbol for the eleventh anniversary.  The cord binding the marriage together can no longer be easily broken, if it ever could.  Strength and permanence define this milestone anniversary.

12th Wedding Anniversary 

Silk

Wedding Anniversary Symbols silk

A couple that reaches twelve years of marriage has, undoubtedly, sailed through many rough waters and overcome a great many obstacles in their relationship.  Having been strengthened by enduring difficulties, they now eagerly anticipate that the road ahead will be smooth as silk.  It is time to enjoy the finer things in life.  Celebrate this anniversary by taking time to indulge in luxury and pleasure.

13th Wedding Anniversary

Lace

Wedding Anniversary Symbols lace

A lace signifies refined beauty and elegance, so a marriage of thirteen years exemplifies polished and perfected love.  The passage of time has created a delicate but strong object of beauty.

14th Wedding Anniversary

Ivory

Wedding Anniversary Symbols ivory

Ivory symbolises purity and innocence.  Rare and beautiful, this precious commodity signifies the integrity of fidelity of the marriage relationship and the extraordinary sense of commitment two people must have to make a marriage last fourteen years.  Loyalty and devotion are qualities worthy of commemoration. Recently there has been a change made to the traditional gift of ivory due to the devastating effect on the lives of elephants, therefore it is recommended that you choose imitation ivory or a piece of elephant jewellery.

15th Wedding Anniversary

Crystal

Wedding Anniversary Symbols crystal

Crystal is the first truly expensive gift in the traditional anniversary list.  The costliness of crystal is representative of the sacrifice and investment the couple has made to the marriage over the past fifteen years.  Crystal also symbolises clarity and transparency, reflecting the state of the couple’s relationship.  They now know each other better than they know themselves.

20th Wedding Anniversary

China 

Wedding Anniversary Symbols china

China symbolises the beautiful, elegant and fragile nature of love.  It is a reminder not to take your marriage for granted, but to continue to care for it so your love will flourish.  In addition, just as china, although fragile, is also durable and long-lasting, so a twenty year marriage has withstood the test of time.

25th Wedding Anniversary

Silver

Wedding Anniversary Symbols silver

Silver is one of the most precious metals known to man.  It has always been prized the world over and considered very valuable.  It is therefore an appropriate symbol for the twenty fifth wedding anniversary.  Like silver, may your marriage continue to shine in splendour and radiance all of your days as you grow old together.

30th Wedding Anniversary

Pearl 

Wedding Anniversary Symbols pearl

Lying hidden deep inside the shell of an oyster is one of the most exquisite and treasured gems imaginable: the pearl.  Symbolising hidden beauty, the pearl reminds the maturing couple that true beauty comes from within and that what is most valuable is the shared experience of life with another.

35th Wedding Anniversary

Coral

Wedding Anniversary Symbols coral

Coral has often been called the “garden of the sea” because it covers the ocean floor.  In ancient times it was considered sacred and believed to contain magical properties of protection from sickness and harm.  It was also thought to represent the life force due to its blood red appearance.  Like coral, loyalty and commitment are the lifeblood of a good marriage and love the shield that protects the union.

40th Wedding Anniversary

Ruby

Wedding Anniversary Symbols ruby

Symbolising love and passion, the ruby is one of the most coveted gemstones of all.  Within the heart of this stone is thought to lie a flame of fire that grows brighter with each passing year, just like the flame of a forty year marriage.

45th Wedding Anniversary

Sapphire

Wedding Anniversary Symbols sapphire

For long ages the stone of royalty, the sapphire is the perfect gem to honour a forty five year marriage.  Two people together for this length of time are a shining example to all married couples.  Theirs is a union worthy of admiration and respect.

50th Wedding Anniversary

Gold

Wedding Anniversary Symbols gold

Only one gift can rightly capture the crowning achievement of lifelong love: gold.  Symbolising prosperity, strength, and wisdom, it represents the essence of what a fifty year marriage should be.

Why not give me a buzz and we can talk about how to turn your next wedding anniversary into a special, meaningful ceremony.

Maybe you’ll even consider renewing your wedding vows???